Are you Anxious, Avoidant or Secure? How the science of adult attachment can help you find – and keep – love
What if the way you behave in relationships isn't simply a personality quirk, but a deeply rooted psychological pattern? That's the central idea behind this thought-provoking book by psychiatrist and neuroscientist Amir Levine and psychologist Rachel Heller, who draw on attachment theory to explain why we love the way we do. Originally developed by John Bowlby in the 1950s, attachment science identifies three distinct styles: anxious (those who worry constantly about a partner's feelings towards them), avoidant (those who pull back from closeness to protect their independence), and secure (those who are generally comfortable with intimacy and warmth). Most of us fall fairly clearly into one camp. The book helps you work out which one. Using quizzes, case studies, and accessible psychological insight, Levine and Heller walk you through identifying your own attachment style and spotting the patterns in those around you. Whether you're searching for a compatible partner or trying to strengthen a relationship you already have, that self-knowledge turns out to be genuinely useful. It's a grounded, readable take on a well-researched subject, and it offers something rarer than most relationship books manage: practical guidance that actually connects back to real science. For anyone who has ever wondered why certain relationship dynamics keep repeating themselves, this is a worthwhile and illuminating read.
- Author: Rachel Heller Amir Levine
- Publisher: Pan Macmillan UK
- Genre: Personal Development
- ISBN: 978-1529032178
- Pages: 304 pages